Heal and learn from an affair and then rebuild your new relationship in Raleigh.
Infidelity / Extramarital Affair
Ready to Save Your Relationship? Use Gottman Method's Proven Three-Part Approach: Atone, Attune, and Attach.
Restore Trust and Commitment after Infidelity
The unspeakable happened in your relationship: a partner cheated and had an affair. While not commonly spoken about openly and publicly, this act of unfaithfulness that you experienced happens to couples more often than thought.
No matter the details, frequency, or rationale for the affair, you and your partner need to let go of your current relationship and replace it with a new, healthier one.
The process will be challenging and emotional. And yes, it can be done.
A Compassionate Approach to Guide Your Relationship through Recovery after Infidelity in Raleigh
I) Atone: Expression of Remorse and Forgiveness
In the first stage, the couple focuses on openness and transparency. The unfaithful partner takes responsibility for their behaviors and expresses remorse. The unfaithful partner also provides complete candor about past actions. The betrayed communicates the hurt, pain, and losses they have experienced as a result of the affair. The betrayed also provides forgiveness.
II) Attune: Rebuilding Trust and Reconnection
During attune, or the second stage of recovery, the couple works on rebuilding connection through gaining healthy, open communication skills and conflict resolution tools. Each partner also begins to understands the context for the affair and builds everyday emotional connection.
III) Attach: Development of a New Relationship
For attach, or the third and final stage, couples reestablish their trust in and commitment to each other through development of a new, stronger relationship and a new future together. Both partners get to shape new rituals for connection and examine their new shared meaning as a couple.
A Journey to restoring trust after betrayal
Some Considerations for Moving Past Infidelity in Couples Therapy
- Requires a willingness to make amends and recommit to each other
- Necessitates multiple thorough and frank conversations about the affair
- Entails understanding the betrayed partner may have PTSD as a result of the infidelity and need to heal their trauma
Ready to move past infidelity and into a healthier relationship?
Schedule a free, 15-minute video consultation with Janice, a Raleigh counselor both trained in the Gottman Method and its approach to treating affairs.